Last night I went to a birthday shindig of a girl I recently met - a very sweet girl. We headed out to a lounge in Chelsea which looked like any other lounge I've been to in NYC. Though this topic doesn't fall in line with the first dates theme, I did want to address the "cool" wallflowers.

So we're chillin' and drinking in the back with an unfavorable ratio of 2 guys to 1 girl. After about an hour, things started to turn in my favor because of the other fellas' insecurities (AKA their coolness). The music was great - a mix of hip hop and 80s favorites. As usual, the ladies started to groove and of course most of the guys were just sitting on their asses trying to look cool and chat amongst themselves. Please note that if you're a heterosexual male, you may not want to be sitting in a circle of guys in a lounge located in Chelsea. OK, back to my point. My friend and I took advantage of the opportunity and were bumpin' (n' grindin') with the lovely ladies -- and the other gents just sat (not that I'm complaining!). I'm really not sure why they like to be wallflowers, but I suggest that if you're a male in a lounge with a group of lovely ladies, then you should try dancing.

Because 1) girls like guys who dance no matter how bad you are (watch Hitch) 2) it's fun 3) women think men who are good dancers are also good in bed. Sorry for the rant but I'm just trying to motivate the male species. Then again, grinding 3 girls at the same time was certainly enjoyable for me.